Today is my 44th birthday. And this trip around the sun has been one of significant personal and professional growth. I have a very clear memory of my 22nd birthday; it occurred to me that when my years doubled, I would be 44 and should probably just go lie down in the street. Because at 44, your life was basically over. Perspective is a wonderful thing.
I may be late to the party, but I feel like I'm starting to get some things figured out. I'm using this blog to write them down so that I can refer back to them, and share them with the world.
Things I know to be true:
1. I'm not good at everything, but I am really, really good at a few things. I'm best when I focus on those things and let others tackle the rest.
2. Authenticity is one of the traits I value the most. People who are authentic are a treasure. People who are not are not worth the effort. This may sound harsh, but it's true (and you know it!).
3. Some mornings it takes me a bit longer to get out of bed because things hurt. That's okay.
4. I am consistently grateful that my body still allows me to do the things I love. Even if those things aren't always a great idea.
5. Family can be chosen.
6. Relationships are delicate things that require effort. That's okay. And sometimes friendships (and family) resurface after years, or decades, of lying dormant. That is a blessing.
7. No matter what my inner 25-year-old says, I should not wear the half shirt.
8. In most cases, effort and emotion should only be spent on people and situations that return the gift.
9. Open water swimming is my church. I need to practice more often.
10. I am more blessed than I deserve.
11. Raising a teenager is hard. And confusing. And sometimes hilarious. I have no idea what I'm doing, and that's okay. But I do have friends who have navigated these waters before me, and they are generous with advice.
12. The bucket list is important. I have one from about 10 years ago. I revisit it periodically and in those years it hasn't changed much. I'm making a conscious effort to cross things off the list. If you hear of me opening a dog farm, now you know why.
13. Perspective is everything.
14. I am overcome with gratitude that I'm able to pay my bills by doing what I love. That is rare, and I am very aware of how lucky I am that people and organizations trust my abilities.
15. Good wine should not be saved for special occasions. This is an ongoing debate with my husband. If I- and all my loved ones- woke up today, it's reason enough to drink the good stuff.